Letter to KayDee: How I Walked Away from Someone With Paranoid Personality Disorder

Created by Meitzi C

Dear KayDee,

It’s not about forgiveness, because there’s nothing to forgive. You’re simply being yourself, navigating life in your own way. Yet, witnessing your soul filled with anger and hatred is truly heart-wrenching. It’s akin to seeing someone caught in the grips of addiction, yet to hit rock bottom.

I can only hold onto hope that one day you’ll find the courage to recognize how your words, purposely laced with hurt and cruelty, resemble the actions of someone inflicting physical violence. And then, expecting instant delete and erase from those you’ve hurt, as if nothing happened, is a deeply concerning pattern of behavior.

I understand the roots of your constant defensiveness and feeling of being under threat. However, this understanding should not be perceived as viewing you as a “science project.” It’s like suggesting that chefs and restaurant owners see diners merely as test subjects.

In our interactions, KayDee, your constant defensiveness and tendency to interpret kindhearted remarks as personal attacks reflect your inner mistrust and suspicion, and habitually positioning yourself as a victim is tough to witness. While you love recommending great restaurants to others, automatically labeling it as an insult when they…