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When You Give a Mouse a Cookie
In “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie,” one of my son’s favorite bedtime stories, illustrates a sequence of events unfolded by a small act of kindness. Once the mouse receives the cookie, it leads to a chain of requests and activities, creating a loop that eventually brings a story full circle. The book brilliantly illustrates the concept of cause and effect.
In the real world, whether in the personal or professional space, we encounter these mice running around with constant demands and expectations without reciprocation. They are the masters of the domino effect, turning a crumb of a kind gesture into a banquet of demands that often leaves a trail of delightful disorder in their wake.
They’re Here. They’re There. They’re Everywhere.
Know someone who only calls when they need help without first checking your availability? When they say “Jump!” they expect you to ask “How high?” immediately without giving a fragment of consideration of your capability.
How about whiny Wanda, who can extend each phone conversation to no less than two hours while doing 95% of the talking? Thank God for bluetooth earbuds; you no longer need to ice your neck or schedule yet another appointment with your chiropractor during lunch break the next day.
And there is Aunt Barbs, the “I-am-not-good-at-this-but-you-are” type, with a list of tasks to make her life easier and happier and doesn’t give a damn that you work full-time and have a family to look after.
Not to forget that super insecure boss, demanding a full written report of everything you set to do this past week after a 90-minute team status report call and a 60-minute one-on-one.
Then there is cousin Gigi, who mistakenly believes you as her personal bank loan officer.
The Subtle Truth
People with lower emotional intelligence, thus lacking in the self-awareness department, might not realize such an exhibition of this “mouse” behavior. They are simply unable to recognize the impact or social cues of being burdensome.
